tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3512644569309593651.post8086088447879490392..comments2023-09-16T07:22:38.105-05:00Comments on Keeping Her Cool: Is "Housewife" In This Job Description?Colleenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17681823790863039856noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3512644569309593651.post-56485967267198282512011-05-17T04:15:26.076-05:002011-05-17T04:15:26.076-05:00Must admit that you are the coolest blogger i have...Must admit that you are the coolest blogger i have seen till now !<br /><br /><a href="http://www.samplejobdescriptions.org/" rel="nofollow">job descriptions</a>rajumadhurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11770100572870354581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3512644569309593651.post-83386010433945915102011-05-14T23:05:23.977-05:002011-05-14T23:05:23.977-05:00I have mixed feelings.
I *get* the un-doing of ...I have mixed feelings. <br /><br />I *get* the un-doing of household chores. My kids do not get that I'm pregnant and barely able to do the chore once, let alone the several times that is sometimes necessary with six kids in the house. <br /><br />I don't know that I want to "quit" or make my children quite that independent at such a young age. But I do think it's fair to teach them to be self-sufficient. After all, we want them to one day be capable of being on their own. A friend of mine got married and he kept calling his mother to make Dr.'s appointments for him. Seriously, guy? Can't do that on your own?<br /><br />For us, I have the Motivated Moms (http://www.motivatedmoms.com/products.html) chore chart, and I literally give each of the old-enough kids a couple of the chores each day. According to their ability. They also have other things they're expected to do, too.<br /><br />At the same time, I like doing those things with them. Whether it's making lunches, or getting dinner on the table, or cleaning up the kitchen afterward. Those times allow me to teach, be hands on, and offer us a time of simple connection. A time where that bond isn't being forced, but forged the same way it is through hugs, kisses, and bedtime stories. <br /><br />I guess I think there can be a happy medium where you're a hands-on mom who is still preparing her children to be independent. What a great thing to think about! Thanks, Colleen!Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667772171360379262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3512644569309593651.post-58809964060333792952011-05-12T14:54:28.858-05:002011-05-12T14:54:28.858-05:00Our kids 'help out', if what you call '...Our kids 'help out', if what you call 'chores' being done by a 4 & 5 year old 'helping' - We call it 'teamwork' at our house...And on Saturdays, if you were a team player all week without complaining - you get $1.00! The kids LOVE it (usually!) They don't have a ton to do - but, putting shoes on the shoe tray, dirty laundry in the laundry room (in a pile on the floor of course!), bringing dishes to the sink, etc - Kids today expect WAY too much - if we don't teach them some sense of responsibility...who will?darciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03611334115957929814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3512644569309593651.post-69598184828209621482011-05-12T11:36:21.138-05:002011-05-12T11:36:21.138-05:00Ditto that. I've been told by my spouse and ou...Ditto that. I've been told by my spouse and our child psychologist that I expect too much from our 8-year-old: making bed, taking dishes into kitchen after each meal, putting away clean laundry once a week, and getting his backpack and lunch ready for school. I've slacked off on the bed and lunch, but not for long. I expect him to keep up part of the house just for living there, and so I'll be adding more chores as he gets older. And we don't tie his allowance to these jobs. He can do extra jobs if he wants to earn money, but he's never going to get paid for keeping his house/dorm room/whatever cleaned, so why should he now? Just my two cents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3512644569309593651.post-6578344738990617872011-05-12T09:27:25.793-05:002011-05-12T09:27:25.793-05:00My comment is short: "Amen, sister."My comment is short: "Amen, sister."Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18034513703063242720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3512644569309593651.post-57738847053069833772011-05-12T07:40:56.178-05:002011-05-12T07:40:56.178-05:00Someone should have called social services on my M...Someone should have called social services on my Mom! We all had our own alarm clocks, we all got ourselves up and made our breakfast and got ourselves off to school after my parents went to work. I think we each started doing our own laundry when we were teenagers- I LOVED doing laundry. Saturday was "cleaning" day- nothing fun could happen until the cleaning was done, so we were usually up early tending to "the list". Of courset there were also dishes each night....<br /><br />But, my parents both worked. And I think it was fair (although I didn't think it was fair back then...). A lot has to happen to keep a household running and it shouldn't fall to just one person. My Dad did his fair share as well.<br /><br />My MIL was/ is a SAHM/ housewife and her boys never had to do *anything*. It's a nice thought, until you get married to someone who has never had to clean, who has blinders on to what might need to be done, because someone always did it for them, without them knowing.<br /><br />My kids are going to know how to clean. When are they supposed to learn these life skills? College?<br /><br />FTR- if someone were to stop by today, my house looks great. Becasue we've had two showings in a week...normally it's a disaster area. Toddlers and babies and cuddling and whatnot.Erinhttp://www.theslackermom.comnoreply@blogger.com