22. Tell My Dear Readers What's Up!

Yes, something is very much up. I have been conspicuously absent from the blogosphere for the past month. Perhaps you've noticed. It's not that I haven't been stretched or challenged, quite the contrary. The past month has stretched and challenged me beyond what I could have created myself with the careful construction of a list. It's time for me to share some stuff with you, friends. Some stuff that may change the direction of this here blog, but I hope that will not deter you from visiting and continuing to challenge and stretch yourself.

Just the other day, when I picked my son up from preschool, his teacher met me at the door with a smile on her face. "It's really not funny, Colleen, but I have to tell you what happened today." She pulled an incident report out from a file folder. Again, she covered her smiling, almost giggling mouth with her hand as I read the report. It appears as though my almost 3 year old son (who has the energy of... well... an almost 3 year old) took off running laps around the gym during free play. He tripped and fell resulting in a huge swollen goose-egg on his forehead. According to my son's teacher and the report, "he didn't even cry. All he was concerned with was getting a band aid." Much to the surprise and delight of his teachers, once the icepack was applied for an appropriate period of time, and the aforementioned band aid was affixed to his bulging forehead, he took off running again.

By the way, telling people you have something to share, and then distracting with a seemingly unrelated story is what we call a "tease" in radio. It's annoying to be sure, but I promise you it will all make sense in a short moment. Stay put and keep reading. Please.

When my son came running out of the classroom sporting a blue band aid right smack in the middle of his forehead that said, "I'm okay" I could not have been more proud of him. He was down for the count for just a moment, but then back in the game. Unafraid of what roadblocks life (or rather, a poorly fitting pair of crocs) could throw in his way. It's been two days, and I still haven't seen what kind of carnage is hiding under that band aid. He is too proud of his badge. This is the way my husband and I have approached our lives in the past five years. I had a worry-free (or relatively worry free) pregnancy with our first child. We joyously welcomed our baby girl, Brady (named for my maiden surname) into the world, only to have her suddenly taken 109 days later - a victim of SIDS. My second pregnancy was quite short lived. It seemed that we had just found out we were pregnant and soon after we were experiencing the pain of a miscarriage. This beautiful son that inspires me daily, Ollie, was conceived shortly after the miscarriage, and that pregnancy was filled with fear. His birth was joyous, but again, the first few months of his life were cloaked with that same fear. We were no longer innocent to the temporary nature of life. He is, of course, alive and thriving, and for that we are abundantly thankful every moment of every day. I was determined to make my next pregnancy fearless. I told people early in the pregnancy because I didn't want to be frightened. We named the baby quite early in pregnancy (we had the same name picked out for a boy or a girl), and we anxiously awaited the fateful date when we could find out what flavor Parker would be. The day proved to be fateful in quite another way. On the day that we discovered that Parker was a girl, we also discovered that she had some of the most severe birth defects that made her incompatible with life. In short, it was a miracle that she had been with us so long. We said goodbye to Parker Hope Lindstrom at 20 weeks of pregnancy in November of 2008.

You are probably guessing what my next words are going to be, and you are correct, I'm pregnant, again. But that is not all the news. Matt and I had one wish, ONE more healthy baby. Well, it turns out that there were different plans. We are expecting TWO more babies. I am admitting to you that I am very afraid, for reasons that are so great in number that I couldn't begin to list them here. I am also feeling as blessed as can be.

Please understand, though we have experienced losses, these babies are not coming to "replace" those we have lost. We have heard that all too many times, and I simply cannot believe it. It may come as a shock to hear this, but what my husband and I have gained from the experience of grief I wouldn't trade for the world. This is the road we have come to walk, and we try every day to walk it with grace, and so having two babies in no way erases the pain we have suffered or the children we have lost, nor do we want it to.

We continue to "count" Brady and Parker among our children, and hope and pray that the two that I am carrying now will join their brother, Ollie in a vibrant life. When Matt and I were married, we planned to have two children. We have been blessed now with so many more, and we love them all equally. Like our son, we have taken off running laps, we have fallen and gotten hurt, we have gotten back up, dealt with the pain, and taken off running again with the band aids proudly displayed. We are not ashamed of where we've been, we honor it. It has made us better mates, better parents, and better people. We have lost friends that are uncomfortable with our grief, we have made friends who celebrate life (however short) with us, we have navigated uncomfortable conversations with well-meaning acquaintances when they have asked the question, "how many children do you have," and we have tried to live our lives in a way that would make our daughters proud.

Quickly, upon finding out that we were expecting twins a few weeks ago, my emotions shifted from focusing on the fear I felt, to focusing on the excitement of twins. I have been given the gift of a whole new pregnancy. A whole new experience. I have no intention to make this blog a parenting blog. Instead, I want to acknowledge that sometimes we are faced with challenges that cannot be accomplished in a week or even a month. Sometimes when we stretch ourselves, we are stretched indefinitely and we cannot control the outcome. We ask for support, we share our truth, and we hope for the best. That is what I intend to do here. Starting now, I will check in weekly (again, I promise), I still will post blogs that are totally unrelated to my pregnancy, but frequently I will likely blog about how this pregnancy is stretching me figuratively, not literally (although - rest assured, that is happening).

So that's the news. Two new Lindstroms arriving in the winter. I never got around to that laughter yoga - but there has been plenty of laughter and celebration around here. This week I intend to meditate every day. Trust me, I need it.


  1. Colleen,

    Thank you! That was the most beautiful and life-affirming post, and it seeped of love, hope, human-ness, and joy. We are cheering you on as you and Matt journey down this road together...embracing all that life has given you. Your attitude of gratefulness for life reminds all of us to trust in the journey, whatever it may be. I love Ollie’s example of how to bravely go about life. Kids always know stuff, don’t they?

    Blessings and love to you guys, and we’re excited to share in all of it with you. Congratulations! And good to see you back. :)


  2. I have tears in my eyes...and I am NOT a crier! Wow, that was an amazing post.

    Congratulations! How wonderful for you both!

  3. That was an inspiring post, I have been an FM107 listener for 6 years and have actually cried at my desk, in my car, and at the gym when I have heard your good and bad news. Congratulations, wishing you and the 2 little ones and the rest of family and happy and healthy next few months.

  4. Colleen,

    I am a friend of one of your friends and I have also listened to you on the radio and followed your journey. I just wanted to write in and thank you for sharing this wonderful news! How incredibly exciting to be adding to your already amazing family!

    Take Care,


  5. Colleen,

    I am very excited to hear your wonderful news! Congratulations to you and Matt! Your post particularly touched me and serves as a reminder to not focus on the fear, but the excitement of what lies ahead!


  6. Wonderful post! I can't wait to rock those babies and help lift you up (hopefully not literally, but I'll do that too, if need be) during this amazing journey. How hilarious is it that you created a blog designed to track your deep dive into new challenges and show the world how you can stretch yourself?! I love the way the universe works! :)

    Love You,

  7. Congratulations! I am praying for you and your family and am thrilled at your fun and surprising news:-)

    If you have twin girls, it will be like the Wakefield family of Sweet Valley. Hee.

  8. What a blessing to have two new children join your family. My goodness mama... You will have quite a clan :)
    Take every challenge one foot at a time and call me if you need support. Love ya!

  9. Wow - Congratulations on your twins. What wonderful news! I look forward to hearing more bout your pregnancy and these little babies on your blog. Please don't hesitate to write about it. :)

  10. Colleen,

    Wow! Congratulations and good luck.

    Great blog by the way.


  11. That is such fantastic news! I am so happy for your family. ^_^

  12. So happy for you all!

  13. I love this post. Thanks so much for sharing. Congrats on your pg-c!

    - Lisa

  14. What wonderful news! I am so happy for your family. I've missed your posts the last few weeks and I'm excited you will be continuing to blog. Good Luck and keep up the good work.


  15. Congratulations! Wow. I'm so amazed by your journey and your approach to life events. Thank you for sharing and I can't wait to start our work with you as our life coach. God Bless!

  16. I have read your inspiring and honest post several times now! Congratulations!!

  17. I just listened to you filling in for Jason Matheson and was so glad you mentioned your blog! When you said there would be some "news" posted, I just knew what it was going to be.

    I am thrilled for you Colleen. You are inspiring and beautiful. Congratulations!
    Wishing you all the best!

  18. As I sit here with tears in my eyes I would like to say you are such a beautiful person and your children are so privlegded to have you and your husband for parents. Congratulations on your twins and I will be praying for you and awaiting to hear more about you journey.

  19. I have enjoyed listening to you this week...love your laugh. Had to come and find out what the news was after listening to you on the radio...although I was guessing correctly! :) So happy for your wonderful news and am praying that all goes well. Your kids are lucky!

  20. Colleen, I can't believe I listen to the show every day since 2006, and I am missed this! Crying as a I read this post. I have never met you, although I feel like I know you. I am so happy, and I will put you in my long list of people I pray for. It's good to hear this news!!! I believe everything will be ok this time. I just know it :)


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